My husband and I had our 4th child 3 (very long) months ago. He was quite different from our other 3. Our first 3 nursed well, gained weight well and were all-together quite happy. I loved the interaction and the cooing and smiles, but Coldon was different...he cried... ALOT!!! It wasn’t until he was about 6 weeks that my husband asked “do you think he has colic?”.
I didn’t know anything about colic. With some research and some doctor visits, we came to the conclusions that he did in fact have colic.

With an unexpected increase of travel on my husband’s part, came a realization that I was pretty much on my own with a newborn and 3 kids and the dark, cold, grey skies of a Chicagoland winter...not a good combo.
But God, who is gracious and good, opened my eyes and allowed me to see that it was postpartum depression that I was feeling. I was feeling helpless, guilty for not being readily available to my other 3 kids or my husband, didn’t feel like showering, loss of control, no desire to do daily household chores and did not have an appetite. I began by telling my family and friends how I was feeling. I didn’t want to feel alone and knew I needed lots of prayer. Help came abundantly and frequently.
I kept hearing “this to shall pass” and I believed it would, I just wanted it to pass NOW! I allowed God to grow me in those 3 months. I don’t like to ask for help...I learned to do just that. Life isn’t meant to be done all alone. I leaned heavily on the Lord in pray daily, hourly and by the minute. I meditated on Psalm 1:3 which says “He is like a tree planted by streams of water which yields its fruit in season.” I new I would be “productive” again...I just needed some time.
If you are suffering from or know someone who is suffering from postpartum depression or the “baby blues”, encourage them to talk to their doctor, pray with them often and offer help. The best way to offer help is to be specific. When people asked me “what can I do to help?”, I had a hard time being specific. When they said “I am free Tuesday morning to come hold the baby while you grocery shop” was soooo much more helpful!
My husband often asked what he could do for me, and honestly I did not know. I found this website
here that had a list of what you could do for someone who is suffering:
Do NOT criticize her
Do NOT minimize her faith, but instead encourage her always.
Do NOT tell her to "just get over it." This is a serious, physical illness.
Do NOT tell her to just pray more - instead, pray WITH her.
Do NOT tell her that she should just be happy she has a baby or that this is what she asked for.
Do NOT tell her that if she had more faith and/or prayed more that this would not have happened.
Do NOT leave her alone when she is fragile and unstable.
Do NOT force or highly encourage her to breastfeed if she is unable to. This will only magnify feelings of guilt that are already present.
Do NOT make her feel any shame for her condition.
Do NOT be angry with her.
In two more days Coldon will be 3 months old. I believe the worst of the colic is over...he no longer has prolonged periods of crying. I feel more like my happy, bubbly self. Our campus pastor's wife Diane reminded me of something a few weeks ago...our most important job as moms right now is just that...being a mom. The bible doesn't say anywhere that I should have
my time to sew or
my time to run...I should be "training" up my children. It is the hardest job one will ever have and often you don't see the fruits of your labor until your children are grown. Being a mom is the hardest job and you will love it the most.

From left: Carter(4), me and Coldon(2 weeks), Matt, Ethan(almost 7), and Else(8 1/2)

Hope your day is a Happy One!